Double Your Dating is a training course that offers guys the means by which to learn the essentials of dating. Like so many other like training courses, it promises to make guys have more success with women. For many guys, knowing better how to navigate the tricky world of dating is very appealing, which is the appeal of a course titled ‘Double Your Dating’.
The approach here is based on a few stock imperatives. First, guys need to understand that women are completely different to them, and that includes their expectations of what they expect when dating, being courted, etc. Second, a guy needs to be taught the means by which to present the best version of himself. Only then can he succeed in attracting women. Finally, the dating process itself is given an overview.
A dating course that promises more dates (or at least its name implies as much) has set its own bar high. It is not an idle claim, and is the claim against which it should be measured. Is there a methodology here that will give guys a better chance at success with women? Does the approach stand a chance of working for the average Joe? This review of Double Your Dating will offer a verdict on its promises.
The dating world is intimidating for just about any guy. That is why training that purports to ‘Double Your Dating’ is bound to be appealing for many guys. It promises to double your chances of getting a date, and, hopefully, scoring too, right? Ummmmm, not really. Whilst there is content to be gleaned, it doesn’t provide the kind of dating illumination that its title promises. It simply doesn’t.
It’s difficult to summarize a training course like Double Your Dating because it’s so devoid of any real character or sense of self. It has a catchy title but goes onto have content that’s not never really focused beyond broad strokes and content seen before. It doesn’t really make a user feel any more empowered about the dating world. Double Your Dating is the branding equivalent of a damp squib.
David DeAngelo is the creator of this training. He writes more like an older brother and less like a mentor or guide. He doesn’t inform or advise so much as dictate and command. And he seems to think that all guys and all women are the same. It would have been better titled ‘Dating Your Double’. The clichés fly thick and fast, which is why this course is only recommended for those with few and shallow expectations.
The Double Your Dating manual clocks in at 148 pages – not the worst page count, but hefty enough. These are some of the words in David DeAngelo’s introduction to his manual: “It’s taken me a long time to figure out all of the things that you’re about learn [sic]. I’ve spent years on this stuff”. To which I immediately thought: please God, just don’t let it feel like years reading the stuff…Here’s its cover:
Double Your Dating’s manual is divided into ten chapters. Chapter 1 certainly has a refreshing title: ‘Women Don’t Make Sense’. Well, I’m sure most guys wouldn’t argue with that claim! It’s a clever gambit by DeAngelo, ingratiating himself with his readers by comforting guys that women are not easily understood and do almost seem to come from another planet – and that’s okay.
Then he spoils it by making this statement: “Women buy Cosmopolitan magazines, watch soap
operas, and read romance novels. Men buy Playboy, watch sports, and read the paper.” Geez, no clichés there, buddy! It’s just lazy when supposed ‘gurus’ who have spent ‘years’ (ten years according to this guy) researching the sexes and relationships resort to these types of lazy, stereotypical declarations.
It’s all about social programming that has evolved over millennia and is what society has expected of both men and women – that is why we are so fundamentally different. Women are “full of drama,” according to DeAngelo, precisely because it gets the attention of men, it sends emotional impulses through her body and because, well, it’s fun. It’s a game to them, and you need to play on your terms and show who’s boss.
The key is that the guy must feel the part. DeAngelo tells guys to ask themselves questions like, ‘“How would I walk if I believed that I could make any woman feel great inside?” and “How would I talk if I believed that I could make any woman feel great inside?” and “How would I act differently if I were the kind of man that women dreamed about?”. All very easy for any guy, of course.
In Chapter 2 guys are told that it’s okay to be a man. And that includes how men are naturally hardwired to want variety in sex from a variety of different partners. We all hear you, David. He has these choice words for guys: “…when you’re single, then I see nothing wrong with dating as many women as you want. (Keep in mind that there are some crazy viruses, diseases, and other scary bugs that want to jump on your wiener. So use good judgment.)’. His words. It’s a ‘heads up’ of sorts, I guess…
He offers advice on everything from the look guys should strive for to how to wash and groom themselves to even the cologne they should wear – including a list of the ‘best’ colognes for guys. Okey dokey. Because women notice these things, and skanky and poorly groomed just doesn’t cut it with women (well, at least most women, right? ;).
He also tells guys how to get up to speed on such stuff as NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and Timeline Therapy, as well as read books like Frogs Into Princes by Richard Bandler and John Grinder and The Secret of Creating Your Future by Tad James. The reasons why are not explained – these are orders and commands by DeAngelo to all guys, not justified suggestions.
‘How To Develop A Personality That Is Irresistible To Women’ tells guys to be ‘different’ in an attractive way. Insecurity and neediness are big no-nos, of course. Then there are the six ‘things’ that attract women to men. They are 1. Means (i.e. wealth, possessions, etc.); 2. Power (influence, leadership, etc.); 3. Fame; 4. Looks (including height) and 5. Exclusivity (royalty, already married, hard to get, etc.)
Those first five make for a depressing list in that there’s not much most guys can do about being rich or powerful or famous – or royalty for that matter. Thankfully, the most important attribute is #6, i.e. Personality, which includes “Humor, creativity, romance, intelligence, mystique, etc.” Those are the things you need to work on, guys, the DeAngelo way.
DeAngelo is very hung up on the importance of using humour to make women attracted to you. His attempts at how even not-so-funny guys can easily do this are not that convincing, unfortunately. He tops off that thinking by declaring that, “NOTHING works for me like humor mixed with arrogance”. Again, I’m not so sure how many guys can pull off that – never mind how many women will be attracted to it…?
Looks and body language get an entire chapter (Chapter 5). DeAngelo has this to say: “I personally believe that when a man is self-confident (or more specifically, a woman BELIEVES that he is),
women are attracted to him on an UNCONSCIOUS level”. Yeah, this guy does love his CAPS for emphasis. Again, this is an assertion that is easier said than done, IMHO.
Guys need to be prepared to woo a woman. That means making sure his digs are clean and tidy when she comes around, as well as learning how to cook a few good meals and even quickly reading up on topics like reflexology, tarot, psychic readings, palmistry – you know, the kind of stuff that all women are so utterly entranced by in their spare time. Again, no stereotypes here.
Chapter 7 is really handy in that it tells guys where they can normally meet women. I’m sure most guys struggle to figure out that the opposite sex can be found in places like bookstores, coffee shops, supermarkets, healthy food restaurants and, my personal favourite, “anything near salons
and beauty supply stores”. You can also meet women online, he declares – hey, imagine that?! Really?
Chapter 8 tells you how to approach dating, Chapter 9 tells you what to remember when things finally get “physical” and Chapter 10 tells you how to wrap it all up by dating and even having a relationship (which DeAngelo charmingly calls ‘The Beginning of the End, Or the End of the Beginning’). The last three chapters feel rushed – and, dare I say it, with insights that one can find in any bargain basement dating course.
You know that actual dating and relationships are not high on a guy’s agenda when he devotes exactly three pages to the latter topic. That doesn’t seem a problem with regard to relationships – let’s face it, they are an entirely different beast to mere dating. But when your training is called ‘Double Your Dating’ then such scant attention on actual dating itself is going to feel like a letdown.
A very nice touch, I must say, are the key point reminders at the conclusion of each chapter. They remind a guy what the principal points were in a preceding chapter. These concluding reminders provide a sense of learning-on-the-go, as well as a sense of continuity to the training. They almost give credibility to training that is not entirely satisfying or always with a logic that is easy to follow.
DeAngelo does offer three bonus PDFs. The first is a 20-pager called ‘Sex Secrets’ which does offer some sex-related secrets, but does ramble on and on most disjointedly. ‘The 8 Personality Types That Naturally Attract Women’ sounds intriguing, and divides the types into ‘Lover’ and ‘Provider’ categories. It’s mostly crappy in its obviousness.
The third freebie is even more intriguingly titled ‘Bridges’ with the subtitle of ‘From the First Meeting to the Bedroom’. DeAngelo speaks of the ‘Critical Moments’ which are “the moments in time where you have to do something to advance to the next level”. It provides an interesting blow-by-blow analysis of the different stages to the dating game and the various ‘bridges’ one has to cross and how.
Then there are the upsells, i.e. the ‘bonuses’ for sale. It starts meekly enough with ‘Attraction Isn’t A Choice’ at $22.97. Not too bad. But, fuck me, do the prices that follow blow one’s mind! Here are some examples: ‘Advanced Training Techniques’ at $399.85; ‘Deep Inner Game’ at $299.85; ‘On Being A Man’ will cost you $149.85; ‘Become Mr Right’ at $297, whilst ‘The Dating Mega Vault’ will set a guy back no less than $679. Whew, this stuff burns one’s eyes it’s so damn pricey!
There are no less than 19 of these upsell ‘bonuses’. And isn’t this a great way of making a member feel like they are welcome to explore a site and being offered lots of ‘freebies’ (not)…?:
19 times denied. Seriously, a guy could spend his life (and big chunk of savings), including through two divorces, just going through all of them, ! At least DeAngelo does offer a course in a manual with some free bonuses, which is more than this course recently reviewed bothered to do. But I think DeAngelo could take a leaf out of this guy and this guy regarding how not to bombard members with upsells from hell.
And how does it look and feel?
The white and red scheme of the Double Your Dating website works well enough, even if I kept expecting to see a menu with ice cream and waffle offerings, mistaking it as I did for a Milky Lane website. The non-upsell offerings are all PDFs, and we all know what limitations there are with any PDF presentation. Even so, the font and edited layout of the PDFs was pretty lame, looking too amateurish for its own good.
Clicking around the site was easy enough, with nothing being too overwhelming. As hideously expensive as most of its upsell ‘bonus’ offers are, the Double Your Dating site is unique among upsell fiends in having mercifully short descriptions as part of the upsell content. No crappy screaming headlines and large words and arrows in neon. No, not at all. Here, the rip-offs were crisp and to the point, as seen with this description:
What’s To Like About Double Your Dating?
- I do maintain that there is little here that expressly tells a guy how to ‘double’ their dating success. The name for this training course is misleading, no doubt about it. And that’s a big letdown. However, there is an evolution of learning that takes place if one goes from chapter to chapter in the principal manual. What was especially liked were the list of reminders and tips at the conclusion of each chapter. It was appreciated.
- This may be training that that is best described as being lame and bland, but at least it’s not offensive or dripping in annoying fratspeak. It may lay on the stereotypes as thick as Hillary Clinton’s make-up, but the content mostly speaks to adult guys about adult women. Again, not very convincingly, but one gets one’s positives wherever one can, I guess!
What’s Not To Like About Double Your Dating?
- There is a freely available manual and some free bonus offers, but let’s be brutally honest, shall we? Double Your Dating is upsell hell. When you have as much as 19 different bonus offerings that all need to be bought to be viewed, and only 3 free bonuses, then you know what the ethos is of a site. Yip, it’s a money-making racket. And any protestations to the contrary by Mr. DeAngelo would be either delusional or outright duplicity. I’m sure he knows that. And as for some of the prices of these bonus offerings – wow! $399 here, $679 there. It’s no small change with this DeAngelo fella! This is one ballsy guy with chutzpah the size of California!
- Too much of the writing is simplistic and unprofessional, i.e. amateur hour. In the manual’s introduction DeAngelo writes that, “”This book is meant to be used like an encyclopedia. It’s meant to be a REFERENCE, not a novel”. If so, then why write the damn thing like a folksy novel that never shuts up? The manual neither reads nor looks like any book of encyclopedic value. It’s annoying when writers make bold assertions like that in training material, and then don’t deliver. And then there’s the even more annoying habit that Mr DeAngelo has of peppering his writing with that most lazy of writing tricks: USING CAPS FOR EMPHASIS. Here is a prime example from his scratching: “As a matter of fact, to most hot women, THEIR REALITY is that men kiss up to them and give them what they ask for or demand (worst case, they have to get upset or act bitchy to get their way). AGAIN, THIS IS THEIR REALITY”. A lot of shouting going on there, Davey boy!
- There is some decent content but, for the most part, its just the ramblings of a guy at its most anecdotal and with scant empirical evidence, even of his own. And, jeez, is this one guy who loves to paint the world in stereotypical colours and brushstrokes. All guys are much the same and, more so, all women are identical. They hanker for the same things, they all think alike – hell, they even read the same magazines and have the same desires! If only the world were that cartoon simple, dude.
David DeAngelo states how, “”Success with women isn’t like success with learning to use a light switch. Success with women is more like success with learning to play a musical instrument. It takes practice. At first, none of it makes any sense. Sometimes it seems as though all of your practice isn’t making a difference”. The problem is that his course doesn’t provide much insight into how to get that practice.
It’s not that his Double Your Dating is without any content. There is quite a lot of it, and some of it is mildly interesting and insightful. Nor is his a course without any merit. Some guys will probably get worth out of the forceful assertions (many in CAPS, of course) and commands by Mr DeAngelo. But other guys will come to the end and wonder: so, how exactly do I ‘double up’ on my dating?
There’s nothing to hate in Double Your Dating. Okay, the outrageous pricing for nearly all of the bonus features is odious, to say the least. And the writing is mostly amateur. But there’s precious little to love here. It’s not fresh or innovative. Much of the content seems recycled, as if one feels one has seen it elsewhere before. Double Your Dating is inoffensive enough, but it’s still rehashed and blah. And as for those upsell bonuses…jeepers!