How to be a good boyfriend? You might be asking this question because you are currently in a pickle with your girlfriend. If you are, then sorry to say, there is no definite answer.
You have to remember that there is no formula for a smooth-sailing relationship. No matter what you do, even if they are good or bad, problems will always arise that can make you look like a bad boyfriend.
Good thing, we are here for you, and we are going to discuss some of the things that do not only make you look like a good boyfriend but also enrich your relationship with your girlfriend.
Before we go through with reading, we ask you that you keep an open mind as there might be things that will surprise you. We are in no way saying that these things will equate you with becoming a better boyfriend, but definitely, it is a start.
How to Be a Good Boyfriend?
This is a very subjective question. First of all, you are your girlfriend’s boyfriend because, in one way or another, she found something good in you. May that be your looks, brains, or personality—there is that distinct goodness in you that she finds attractive. That, in itself, is already a win.
The truth of the matter is, as the relationship progresses, you tend to lower your guard down. There are no more inhibitions, and you get more comfortable with each other. Gone are the days when you need to woo your girlfriend to make her feel appreciated. Sadly, the common misconception is that you become a bad boyfriend if you no longer do these things for her.
The real problem is that you tend to lose focus. Think about it. In the early days of your relationship, when you are with her, you are solely focused on her because you are trying to win her attention. Now that you’ve got her, that focus has shifted. After all, we don’t crave what we already have, right?
This is not essentially a bad thing, though. This just means that you are entering that comfortable phase where you already know what makes your girlfriend tick. Unfortunately, this is where it all goes wrong. The truth is, you can never be confident about the fact that you know her already because people change constantly.
Things to Do for Your Girl
Here are three simple things that you can on how to be a good boyfriend. As we go through these things, you will realize that being a good boyfriend is not actually about the things that you do, but the thoughts behind your actions.
Yes, we know; women are complicated beings, but these complicated minds only require simple actions.
- Look at and Listen to Her While She Is Talking
Women respond greatly to non-verbal cues. It is not enough that you listen; you should also look at them. Doing so will give the impression that you are focused on what she is saying. It also gives the impression that you are interested in what they are saying even though you really are not.
In line with this, weigh in on what she is talking about. Even though this is a topic that you are uninterested in, keep in mind that this is a woman that you love and respect. Therefore, it should not be a problem for you to try to understand what she is saying.
Ask questions if you must. When you get bored, remember that she listened to you when you were ranting about that foul player on your team while you were playing Battlefield.
- Do Not Provide Solutions
More often than not, when the love of your life rants about something, you always want to make things better by providing a solution. You also get the surprise of your life when your woman gets mad at you for providing a solution to her problem.
Keep in mind that when a woman is ranting, she already knows the solution (they are not dumb). You might just be the dumb one as you did not realize that she is not looking for a solution. Instead, she wants affirmation from you.
So just listen to her and let her rant. If possible, you can console her and acknowledge what she is feeling. We know this is hard because the makeup of a man is to provide solutions, but that is not what women want.
- The Little Things Matter
It is not about going on a romantic date or even buying a house for her (but that will be nice). It is about doing little things for her that make her feel loved.
If you are already living together, why not prepare coffee for her so that she can have her favorite drink as soon as she wakes up? Women tend to have messy bags, which is why it can be a hassle to find their car keys. Why not buy her a designated plate or hook where she can easily find them?
Actually, something as simple as a text telling her to have a good day can brighten up her day. It is not about the size of the action, but rather, it sends a signal to your girlfriend that you are constantly thinking about them.
These are just some of the things that you can do so that you can be a better boyfriend. Keep in mind that these are not drastic things; in fact, these are simple things that you always tend to forget.
Being a good boyfriend is all about expressing your love in simple ways. The key is being consistent. Again, this might be so simple for you, but for your girlfriend, it makes a big difference.
Lastly, do not try so hard. Your girlfriend loves you no matter what, so just stay true to yourself. Make every decision you ever make be for the goodness of your relationship, and we’re sure that you’ll be more than fine.